Setting An Intention (and why you should do it)
This year I am turning 26 – there is nothing particularly interesting about this number except that some of my closest insist I am now in the looming beginning of my late-twenties. Whilst I think they might be having me on, it certainly does have a feel to be the beginning of something very special.
Perhaps it is because a decade has passed since I left school, or because I am in the process of selling the business that I have dedicated the last three years of my life to. Or maybe it is because I have now been, technically, a fully functioning adult in the ‘real world’ for as long as I was at university and can put my hand on my heart and say that I think I have less idea now of what it is I am doing or supposed to be doing than I ever have. It feels good to admit that.
I remember the massive sense of relief I felt when I graduated because I genuinely thought that my life would no longer be plagued by a constant to do list; freedom was very much almost in my grasp. Oh wow, I obviously had it so wrong.
Freedom isn’t defined by having nothing to do; it’s defined by the possibility of opportunity.
Whilst sometimes it can be so overwhelmingly scary, this question of ‘what next?’ or even ‘what now?’ should be a really exciting state of mind that you can return to and indulge yourself in whilst you also attempt to navigate it. I don’t think you can know if you have made the wrong decision until enough time has passed and hind sight reveals itself to you, by which point so many other scenarios will have unfolded that it will still be difficult to know if it was the right or wrong choice anyway. The limitlessness of possibility is enough to terrify anyone to a standstill so at the end of the day, making a choice is better than making no choice, right?
I think my current feeling however is that maybe I haven’t really been indulging in these questions. Or perhaps that I have been making choices without considering my own best interests or asking myself what my intention is.
I’m not suggesting that you need to be entirely selfish, but rather that it is incredibly important to your well-being to take a minute (or a day!) to value both yourself and your time within these decisions.
‘Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything about it.’*
A few years ago, my best friend (sounds cute, but she has been one of the rocks in my life’s garden since I was 13) bought me ‘The Road Less Travelled’* by M. Scott Peck – a book dedicated to the psychological strains of life and how we can attempt to pilot our own self-growth within this. She’s a wise bird and I have a feeling she knew that although this would not immediately seem relevant, it would be a gift to return to time and again over the years. I highly recommend keeping a copy around to dip in and out of in times of self-doubt.
‘The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.’*
So I want to take a moment to set my intention, whether it is for my late twenties, for 2016, or even for today. My intention is to remember that this moment is just the beginning of anything I want it to be and that the end result is going to be even more beautiful than I could possibly have anticipated, even if ‘the plan’ doesn’t quite translate in to what becomes ‘the life.’ I hope that you all find the time today to take a moment to mentally (or physically) give yourself a hug and think about what your intention is. It can be small or it can be massive, but don’t forget to check in with yourself and make sure you are okay with the day to day beat of your life because if you’re not, there is no better time than now to start making those changes.